How to communicate better
Keys and guides to improve your relations and communication
We want to offer you some advises and keys to help you enjoying relations and communication .
#TimeShare
1. Quality time
Stop and keep your time and space.
Focus on you and share this time with the other guder. Try to avoid distractions and enjoy the moment.
Split time.
Share this time as equally as possible so you both have your own space.
#OpenSpaces
2. Open Spaces
Feel free to talk about everything letting off steam about how your day went sharing a doubt that comes up, laughing, about something that happened to you, crying at a bad time, celebrate a good new, or simply sharing something about a movie or the last soccer match.
#GudMode
3. Get into Gud Mode
Speak freely
You can be clear, direct and sincere, don´t be shy!Feel free to express what you would like to share or what you would like to talk about.
Listen carefully
When it's the other one who's talking listen carefully and forget about your own. It's a relief to be able to really listen to the other person and leave your problems at the door.
Be empathetic and welcoming:
Put yourself in the other person´s shoes and avoid judging them. Their life is likely to be different from yours.
#MeaningfulCommunication
4. Guide your conversation
Here are 3 small tips you can follow to guide your conversation and make it flow more naturally:
Respect silences
Don´t be overwhelmed and let them happen,they are necessary. Silences give people time to think and to find the most accurate words and, they are also very useful when we are nervous or tense and we need the emotion to calm down...in order to behave in a more rational way.
Ask questions:
Be interested in what he is telling you, listen to him openly and ask questions that will help you understand him.
It´s like we all wear glasses with different lenses. Each us would see the world differently and there is no right or wrong, it´s just what we see. In Gud Match we encourage you to look at the wordl through the other person´s glasses.
Support their emotions
Respond to that person´s emotions and not to the person´s words, you will help them! Many times we feel so many things at the same time that is difficult to know what is happening to us, discovering it helps us to be able to do something with it. Have you ever cried with anger? By sharing, the other person can return "I feel you are disappointed...whitch gives us the opportunigy to unmask unmask the hidden emotion.
#EmpatheticCommunication
5. Try to avoid:
Sometimes we may not be aware of some behaviors that make the person we are talking to feel uncomfortable. For this reason, we suggest you follow these tips as far as possible:
Giving advices or being a savior Most of us when we talk, prefer to find our own solutions.
Has it ever happened to you that you start to talk about something and the other one insists on solving it when you just need to share i and put it into words.
Interrupt: Do it only when necessary. When we interrupt, it seems that we are saying: "What I have to say is much more important than what you have to say"
Impose. Don´t try to impose your opinion, you can raise doubts that help you understand the other person´s point of view, always do it with curiosity and interest, not questioning or attacking.
Block their emotions. Not letting that person express their emotions because we are uncomfortable and we want them to come out of it (don´t cry, come on let´s laugh...)
Downplay the importance of what they are telling us. What is not important for you may be vital for the other person, respect it (don´t worry, it´s not a big deal...).
Forcing too much to talk or share something they don´t want to express. (Come on tell me, if you don't tell me I can't help you...). Offer to be there when they are ready to share it and give them the time they need.
Having a condescending or compassionate attitude. Don´t treat the other person as a fragile or vulnerate victim instead treat them as someone capable of overcoming their obstacles (avoid the "poor thing, with what you have suffered with...").
Avoid finishing the other person´s sentences,. Let them express themselves at their own time and in their own words, because by giving them the answer you are closing the opportunity for them to find the word they need by themselves. Let's respect their space and their time and in this way, we will really help them.
#TimeShare
1. Gud Time
Stop and keep your time and space.
Try to avoid distractions and enjoy the moment.
Split time.
You will have 20 minutes, distribute it as equally as possible.
#GudUniverse
2. Everything is valid in Gud Match
Chatting, relieving yourself, sharing, laughing, crying, celebrating...
#GudMode
3. Get into Gud Mode
Speak freely
Listen carefully
Be empathic and welcoming
#MeaningfulCommunication
4. Some Gud Keys
We give you 3 easy tips:
- Respect the silences
on´t be overwhelmed and let them happen, they are necessary - Ask questions
Be interested in what he is telling you, listen to him openly and ask questions that will help you understand him. - Support their emotions
Respond to that person´s emotions and not to the person´s words, you will help them!
#EmpathicCommunication
5. Try to avoid:
We recommend you follow this tips and keys to get a better communication:
- Giving advices o be a savior
- Interrupt do it only when necessary
- Impose your opinion
- Block their emotions.
- Downplay the importance of what they are telling us
- Forcing too much to talk or share something they don´t want to express.
- Having a condescending or compassionate attitude
- Avoid finishing the other person´s sentences,.
And remember the most important:
Gud Match an app to accompany each other with love, curiosity and generosity.
A space for we can show ourselves as we are and as we need at any given moment.
Gud Match, Enter the space where you can BE yourself.